I’m less defensive now than I used to be, but I still see defensiveness in me sometimes.
It’s helpful to be aware of defensiveness and how it feels in my body.
My muscles get tighter.
My breath gets shallower.
I start to resist that which is making me defensive.
I can’t think of a scenario where these symptoms are helpful. I don’t have to agree with everything that happens, and yes, it’s vital to defend myself at times.
Ironically, defensiveness doesn’t help me defend myself. It makes me weaker.
Keeping myself relaxed and breathing deeply leads to a more well-defended, future-proof me.
Welcoming criticism helps too. I don’t have to be right all the time. It’s good to be challenged.
Rookies get defensive. Pros hang loose.
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